What are Unrealized Expectations?
We all have them. As children we come to believe in the fairy tales, the bedtime stories where “they all lived happily ever after.”
We build up expectations of having the perfect life, the perfect home, the perfect spouse, and we’ll be happy when this happens, or if I can just get that new job or get through this medical problem or that financial setback.
I know what you’re thinking…my last post was about dreaming. This is like the antithesis post. This is the reality check.
The truth is…
The truth of the matter is, this is life. It is physical. It is work, work, work. It is not fair. And no matter how well we plot, life doesn’t go as we planned.
So what do you do?
What do you do when life doesn’t go the way you plan? Sometimes life knocks us down. It’s ok to take time to get back up and dust ourselves off.
Me? I like to wallow a bit until I find my “new normal.”
I was spared from making a very grave mistake when I was younger. In that case, I am very thankful life didn’t turn out as I had planned.
I always wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom, but that didn’t happen. Instead, I learned labor and delivery, I delivered a handful of babies, helped with hundreds more, experiences I never would’ve had otherwise. I still regret not being able to be home with my kids, but I am thankful for what I learned.
Dream some more…
This is where the dreaming comes in. What is your unrealized expectation? Take just a minute to ponder it. How did your life turn out differently because of it? Is your life better or worse? What can you do to improve the situation? We can’t change the past, but we can start from where we are and improve today. “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” ~George Eliot
Is there something you can do to improve someone else’s life? Maybe the things you have learned are exactly what someone else needs to know.
In conclusion, here is a handy little printable that will help you ponder those unrealized expectations. Dust yourself off, find something to be grateful for, and dream of ways to make improvements from this point forward.